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You're Not You

You're Not You is a drama film directed by and based on the 2006 novel of the same name by Michelle Wildgen. The story centers on , an accomplished classical in her thirties whose life unravels after a diagnosis of (), a progressive . She hires Bec, a directionless and rebellious college dropout, as her full-time caregiver, leading to an unexpected and transformative bond between the two women. As Kate grapples with her physical decline and the strain on her marriage to husband Evan (played by ), Bec confronts her own aimless existence, marked by failed relationships and unfulfilled ambitions, ultimately finding purpose through their friendship. The screenplay was adapted by and Jordan Roberts, with principal photography taking place in , . Starring as Kate and as Bec, alongside supporting performances from , , and , the film explores themes of , , and the human spirit amid . It had its world premiere at the on September 27, 2014, before its limited theatrical release in the United States on October 10, 2014. The film received mixed reviews from critics, praising the lead performances but noting some predictable elements in its narrative.

Plot and characters

Plot

Kate Parker is a talented classical living a fulfilling life in with her devoted husband, , an architect. Their comfortable existence is shattered when Kate begins experiencing tremors in her hand during a social gathering, leading to a diagnosis of (), a progressive . Over the next eighteen months, Kate's condition deteriorates rapidly, robbing her of her ability to play and perform daily tasks independently, forcing the couple to adapt to her increasing reliance on assistance. Frustrated with a professional nurse who treats her too clinically, Kate decides to hire an unconventional : Bec, a rebellious and inexperienced college dropout who arrives to the interview hungover and unqualified. Despite Evan's reservations and Bec's initial clumsiness—such as spilling food and making insensitive remarks—the two women strike an unlikely . As Bec assists with Kate's personal , including and feeding, Kate opens up about her fears and regrets, while Bec shares her aimless life, marked by failed relationships and a lack of direction. Their bond deepens through shared humor, late-night talks, and small adventures, like Bec pushing Kate's to a park, helping her indulge in forbidden treats, or taking her to a club. Kate also befriends Marilyn, another patient who teaches her to embrace humor in facing the disease; Marilyn later dies, affecting Kate deeply. These experiences foster mutual growth—Kate regains a , and Bec learns and . Meanwhile, the strain of Kate's illness takes a toll on her marriage. , overwhelmed by the caregiving demands and emotional weight, begins with a colleague, which Kate discovers and confronts. Devastated and feeling like a burden, Kate attempts by overdose but is saved by Bec. She then insists on a , prioritizing Evan's freedom over their shared history, though the separation leaves her more isolated. Bec, meanwhile, navigates her own personal challenges, including confrontations with her judgmental mother and a budding interest in Will, using the stability of her role with Kate to build self-confidence and pursue better opportunities, such as her music career. As Kate's advances, her speech becomes slurred and her mobility severely limited, culminating in a hospitalization where doctors recommend a to prolong her life. Defying Evan's and her mother's wishes for aggressive intervention, Kate entrusts Bec with her medical decisions and expresses her desire for a dignified at home without , effectively choosing to forgo assisted prolongation of her suffering. Bec honors this by bringing Kate back to the house, where she passes away peacefully in her own bed. In the aftermath, Bec reflects on the profound impact Kate had on her life—transforming her from a directionless young woman into someone capable of deep connection and purpose—beginning a relationship with Will and performing confidently at a club without , while Evan grapples with his and the lessons of loss.

Cast

The principal cast of You're Not You features in the lead role of Kate Parker, an accomplished classical pianist who is diagnosed with . portrays Bec, an unmotivated college dropout who becomes Kate's caregiver. plays Evan, Kate's supportive yet strained husband. Supporting roles include as Jill, Bec's roommate; as Marilyn, a fellow patient; as Will, Bec's romantic interest; as Liam, Bec's professor; as Kate's mother; and as John, Marilyn's husband. Additional notable cast members include in a smaller role. The characters draw inspiration from those in Michelle Wildgen's 2006 novel of the same name.

Production

Development

The film You're Not You is an adaptation of Michelle Wildgen's 2006 debut novel of the same name, published by Thomas Dunne Books, an imprint of . The story centers on a diagnosed with and her evolving relationship with a young . In March 2008, optioned the novel for adaptation, with two-time Academy Award winner attached to star and produce through her newly formed company, 2S Films, in partnership with Molly Smith; the project marked 2S Films' first endeavor and benefited from a with , alongside producers and Alison Greenspan of Di Novi Pictures. The screenplay was penned by Shana Feste, with revisions by Jordan Roberts, transforming the source material for the screen. Key adaptations include altering the Kate's from an executive in the to a classical , while expanding the Bec's backstory to highlight her personal struggles and aspirations, thereby intensifying themes of female friendship and mutual transformation. In September 2012, acclaimed theater director , known for his work including , was brought on to helm the project, with commencing in November 2012 in . Financing for production was secured through 2S Films, Di Novi Pictures, and Daryl Prince Productions.

Casting

Hilary Swank became attached to star as Kate, the accomplished classical pianist diagnosed with , and produce the film through her company 2S Films in March 2008. The film remained in development for several years before gaining momentum in 2012, with director announced to helm the project opposite Swank in September of that year. In October 2012, entered negotiations and was ultimately cast as Bec, Kate's brash young caregiver, providing a key supporting role to Swank's lead performance; the selection emphasized the dynamic contrast between the characters' personalities. Shortly thereafter, on October 30, joined the cast as Evan, Kate's husband, rounding out the principal trio in early announcements for the production. Supporting roles were filled rapidly in November 2012, with actors including as Marilyn, as Keely, and as Will added to the ensemble through targeted casting efforts. The casting process faced challenges in identifying performers capable of handling the emotional depth and physical rigors of depicting progression, particularly for Swank's transformative role, which required extensive preparation including consultations with ALS patients and specialists to authentically convey the disease's impact. Swank's prior Oscar-winning performances in roles demanding physical and emotional intensity, such as in , informed her suitability for the demanding portrayal.

Filming

Principal photography for You're Not You commenced in November 2012, primarily in , , where interiors and many key scenes were captured to facilitate efficient production logistics. To evoke the film's Midwestern backdrop, establishing shots were filmed in , . Directed by , the production featured cinematography by Steven Fierberg, contributing to the 's intimate visual style. The completed runs for 102 minutes. Depicting the progression of required practical effects, including custom dental prosthetics for lead actress Hilary Swank's portrayal of the afflicted pianist, alongside movement coaching informed by consultations with ALS patients and specialized nurses.

Release

Theatrical release

The film had its world premiere as the closing night selection at the 2014 San Diego Film Festival on September 27. Entertainment One handled North American distribution following its acquisition of rights in April 2014, launching a limited theatrical release in the United States on October 10, 2014. The rollout extended to Canada simultaneously as part of the North American strategy, with international expansion into select European and Asian markets beginning in late 2014, such as Taiwan on December 12. Marketing efforts centered on the official trailer released on August 28, 2014, which spotlighted Hilary Swank's dramatic performance as the -diagnosed pianist Kate Parker, alongside Emmy Rossum's portrayal of her caregiver. The campaign aligned with broader awareness initiatives, leveraging the film's theme to highlight the disease's impact. The of America rated the film for some sexual content, language, and brief drug use.

Home media

The film was released on DVD and Blu-ray in the United States on April 14, 2015, distributed by Entertainment One. Digital download and streaming options became available starting in April 2015 through platforms such as iTunes and Amazon Prime Video. The U.S. home video editions included special features like the theatrical trailer. International releases occurred throughout 2015 in various regions, including on April 16 and on January 29, often with subtitles in multiple languages.

Reception

Upon its release, You're Not You received mixed reviews from critics, who praised the strong performances of its leads while critiquing the film's predictable narrative and sentimental tone. On , the film holds a 52% approval rating based on 21 reviews, with an average score of 5.6/10. The site's consensus notes that "despite the best efforts of its two talented female leads, You're Not You is not a consistently satisfying of its source ," highlighting the emotional depth achieved through the central but lamenting its formulaic execution. Metacritic assigns the film a score of 56 out of 100, derived from eight critics, indicating mixed or average reviews that frequently commended Hilary Swank's committed portrayal of , a classical pianist grappling with . Swank's performance was lauded for its physical transformation, including and meticulous depiction of the disease's progression, which elevated the material's occasional mawkishness. In , Frank Scheck described Swank's work as "emotionally and physically committed," significantly enhancing the film's impact despite its familiar themes. Critics often highlighted the evolving bond between Kate and her caregiver Bec (Emmy Rossum) as a highlight, with Rossum's portrayal of the initially brash young woman adding nuance to their unlikely friendship. However, reviews pointed to the script's lack of originality and unsubtle handling of emotional beats, drawing comparisons to similar disease dramas like The Theory of Everything for its conventional structure. Variety's Andrew Barker critiqued the early acts for their "movie-of-the-week" predictability and formulaic progression, though he noted the film improves in later scenes by addressing the realities of living with . Overall, the consensus appreciated the thematic focus on resilience and connection but faulted the sentimental tone for undermining deeper exploration.

Box office

You're Not You had a limited theatrical release in the United States on October 10, 2014, opening in five theaters and grossing $9,226 over the weekend of October 10–12. The film's domestic total amounted to $11,486, with international earnings reaching $883,478 across various markets, resulting in a worldwide gross of $894,964. This modest performance aligned with the limited release strategy often employed for independent drama films, which typically target niche audiences rather than broad commercial appeal.

Accolades

Hilary Swank received a for Best International Actress at the 2016 Award for her portrayal of Kate in You're Not You, though she did not win. The film garnered no nominations from major awards bodies, including the , , or . You're Not You has been recognized for raising awareness about (), with screenings featured in events such as the annual Fight ALS Film Fest organized by the ALS Therapy Development Institute to promote education and support for the disease.

Background

Inspiration

The novel You're Not You by Michelle Wildgen, published in 2006, was inspired by the author's friend's real-life experiences as a for a woman living with (ALS). Wildgen drew upon detailed conversations with her friend to understand the intricacies of daily caregiving routines, such as initial tasks upon arriving at a patient's home, and the emotional toll of the role. She further researched ALS realities by interviewing patients, families, and others involved in caregiving, ensuring an authentic portrayal of the disease's progressive impact on independence and relationships. The film's depiction of , including symptoms like , speech difficulties, and loss of mobility, prioritized medical accuracy through direct involvement of the ALS community. The production team issued casting calls specifically for individuals living with ALS to serve as background actors, particularly in hospital scenes, allowing for realistic representation of the disease's physical manifestations based on their lived experiences. This approach helped capture the nuanced realities of ALS without relying solely on scripted approximations. Central to both the novel and film are themes of friendship, loss, and resilience, which echo broader disability narratives in cinema by focusing on transformative interpersonal bonds amid chronic illness. These elements highlight how adversity fosters unexpected connections and personal growth, as seen in the evolving relationship between the protagonist and her caregiver. Director George C. Wolfe was particularly drawn to the story's exploration of "incredible emotional intimacy" in non-romantic female friendships, where ALS acts as an unyielding force that strips away superficialities and reveals core human strengths.

Dedication

The film You're Not You is dedicated to the memory of producer Alison Greenspan's father, Stephen Greenspan, who was diagnosed with in 2004 and died from the disease in 2009. Motivated by her father's battle, Greenspan conceived the project as a tribute to raise awareness about and honor those affected by it, leading to her receiving the ALS Award from Augie's Quest for her contributions to the cause. This dedication appears in the end credits, underscoring the personal stakes for the production team and deepening the cast's emotional investment in portraying the realities of living with . Hilary Swank, in particular, immersed herself in extensive research, spending significant time with patients, their families, and caregivers to authentically capture the physical and emotional toll of the disease, including learning practical skills like wheelchair use and transfers. Swank described the role as more than acting, stating it was "a chance to bring awareness to and honor those living with it." During promotion, Swank and co-star actively advocated for research, participating in initiatives like the to amplify visibility for the disease. They partnered with the ALS Therapy Development Institute ( TDI) and Augie's Quest, organizations that supported the film's release to highlight the impact of on individuals and their loved ones, with promotional materials directing audiences to ALS TDI's resources for further involvement. Following its release, You're Not You has been featured in awareness campaigns, including screenings at the ALS Film Fest organized by ALS TDI, where it serves as an educational tool to foster understanding and support for research and patient care.

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